想做个快乐的单身汉，这其实很简单，取决于你的出发点。如果是因为亲近的人刚离你而去，我送上真挚的慰问;如果你是刚刚结束一段恋情，本文将给你一些有用的帮助;你找不到合适的人生伴侣，害怕孤老终生?阅读本文也同样有帮助。

The answer to how to be happy alone might be quite simple, actually, and it might depend on why you are searching for answers. Did your spouse or a very close person to you just pass away? If so, my condolences, I do have some comforting and helpful words for you in this article. Did a relationship terminate because of your actions or the actions of your former partner? What I’m going to write will help with that too. Is it because you just can’t seem to find someone to suit your expectations and you fear that you may have to resign to being single for the rest of your life? I’ll cover that as well.

你单身，你可以快乐，我将会给你一些小贴士，但是拜托，请不要自陷孤独。要想到未来的日子也许不再孤独，思想要放开。

You CAN be happy alone – and I will provide you with some tips – but please… do not limit yourself to a life of loneliness. Consider that one day you just might not end up alone anymore. Keep an open mind.

你不应当孤独

You shouldn’t be alone

如果你想知道单身如何快乐，这本身就不是一个好问题。单身不是一个好主意。缺乏社会交往往会导致抑郁症等一类不良精神疾患。监狱内较严重的惩罚就是关禁闭。

If you want to know how to be happy alone, you might not be asking yourself the right question. Being alone is not a good idea. Lack of social interaction can easily lead to depression and other unhealthy mental states. The most severe punishment to most prison systems is solitary confinement.

你独身可能是迫不得已，这个我理解。但现在是时候摆脱单身了。脱单的过程本身就是一场快乐。幸运的是，单身和成双两地距离并不遥远，其过程会非常有戏剧性，会完全超乎你的想象。

Look, I don’t mean to sound insensitive. You probably did not have had a choice when you became alone and I understand that. It is now up to you though (when you are ready) to figure out how not to be alone anymore. Look to do that instead of trying to turn “being alone” into a happy thing. Fortunately, the road from being alone to not being alone is much easier and more pleasant to travel than you think.

你不必孤独

You don’t have to be alone

首先,每周两次与朋友或家人相处。如果你没时间，可以每周同他们去喝杯咖啡或茶。你需要来自亲朋好友的支持。也可以和旧同事们一起打高尔夫、打网球或者散步。试着经常性地安排一些类似事情。这会让你的个人时间更加充实合理。

First off, twice a week, surround yourself with friends or family. If you don’t have friends or family that you can possibly spend time with then I will cover this. Otherwise, go have a coffee or tea with a relative once a week or the like. Offer to babysit for a relative or close friends. Golf, walk, or play tennis, for example with an old workmate etc. Try to schedule two things that happen regularly. This will give your personal time more structure, even when you are not on these visits.

这样你会大大减少孤独感(如果有的话)，即便是在你独处时候。你会更快乐更健康。一定要真正地活在当下，享受与家人或朋友出去逛街的快乐时刻。互相陪伴、倾听和理解非常重要。要记住，他们快乐就是你的快乐。受到欢迎会让你开心。这只是一个非常简单的方法，就可以让大家欢度余生。这就是幸福。

You will find that there will be significantly less thought spent dwelling on loneliness (if any), even when you ARE alone. You will be happier and healthier. Be sure to really live in the present and the moment when you are hanging out with family or friends. Listen to them and understand them. Be there for them. Making them happy will make you happy. It’s fun becoming a good person. We just discussed a very simple way that we can make the rest of your life one in which you lived to the fullest and helped others to the same. This is how to be happy.

加入一个群

Join a group

你从不出门?不要有任何借口。参加瑜珈课，或者加入划独木舟小组，非常好玩!可以去打扑克、打麻将和玩拼字游戏。去上学，可以提升你的职业技能，也许在学习班里你可能遇上你的未来。还有读书会等等类似集体活动。

Still don’t have anyone to hang out with? No excuse (I know, I’m strict). Join a Yoga Class or a canoe paddling group (fun!). Lean to play cards, scrabble, or mahjong. Go to school. You will end up in a study group and you will further your career. There are book clubs and stuff. The list is endless.

我并不是想让你整天忙忙碌碌地。每周一两次就足够了。人类是社交动物。与社会相处，会给你幸福和快乐。而且这也很自然。加入社交群体，会增加人与人之间的交流。你会发现自己很期待下一场欢聚，多参加集体活动会增加快乐和幸福感。

Again, I’m not saying you have to be busy all the time. Just a couple of times a week is good enough. People are social. Being social will make you healthy and happy. It will come naturally, too. Just join the group and a situation will come up to where you become social with other people – you’ll see. You will find yourself looking forward to next week and next year. It will foster joy and happiness.

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